FORGETTING IS FREEDOM

Navigating the Ephemeral Dance of Love and Hate

I read, write and draw. And forget about it.

I fight, love and relate. And forget about it.

I am glad, happy and sad. And forget about it.

I am bliss. Forget it.

Love is as resentful as hate.

All the ships in the friendship, love-ship, partnership and parent-ship are sailing towards a waterfall.

They are bound to doom.

That is the nature of love, and that is the nature of hate.

Yet, we are not disappointed in both of them.

A lover still picks up a phone to call his lover after an argument.

A lover hates with the same intensity when she stops loving someone.

Love and hate seem like matter of life and death at the moment.

The relationship wears off like any other thing in existence.

It has a beginning and an end.

Yet the polarities of love and hate sustain.

For the courageous ones who are ready to fall in love again and rise with hate again.

Our life is nothing but incidences of love and hate.

The story of our life is propelled by the conflict it creates.

Drama. Navigating the Ephemeral Dance of Love and Hate

And amid this drama, we forget to forget.

We forget to forget that we were once the love of the life of someone else and drag that emotional baggage into new relationships.

We forget to forget that the new lover is not a replacement for the last one or anybody else in the world.

We forget to be ourselves and be available for someone.

Without expectation, grudge and resentment.

Detached.

Many proclaim to be playing with the mate, many claim that this is the ultimate.

But we often forget that nothing is ultimate in life.

Lovers come and lovers go, and so do the hate.

Love prevails, hate prevails.

Until and unless the lovers are both aware of the self, of the love and the hate; this vicious cycle will keep on creating emotions, resistance and pain.

I have many lovers and I have fallen in love many times. I dare to.

The women I loved always wanted to give me something.

I wanted to give something to the men I loved.

Women couldn’t give and Men couldn’t take.

Because they were not themself.

Either drunk on the love or living in ignorance and denial of it.

The Beauty of Love and Hate

But love can be beautiful, as can be hate.

Once both are left behind we face the reality of life as it is.

The passion turns into compassion and love into affection.

Hate becomes the mirror which always judges back on love.

When you find yourself, you will fall in love again and again.

With yourself and with lovers who cross your path.

Keep it to that, ‘lover crossing the path.’

Don’t go on an expedition to find a father, mother and a lost loved one in them.

See yourself for who you are and see your lover for who he is.

See love for what it is.

Be honest that you love, be honest that you hate.

Give up the fight with yourself, as love is a battle, not a game.

Good Bye

If you have not forgotten the first time you said hello!

Don’t forget to say goodbye.

Learn to say goodbye.

Be thankful for the good times and forget about it.

As many more turns are on your way ahead.

Parting of the bodies is not parting of the souls.

As you will meet again, on a different note in a different way.

Say Hello again, this time like the first time.

Start new again, every time like a first time.

Like an infant has opened his eyes for the first time. Let every blink, a look at the world for the first time.

Forgive and Forget

Forgive yourself for the sins of love, as it wasn’t you it was love.

Forgive your lover for the hate you received, as it wasn’t him it was the hate.

You are not love, you are not hate.

You love and you hate.

It is ‘doing’, not the doer.

It happens not done.

Don’t be so hard on yourself, as you have many more lovers so face, haters to hate.

Be empty as the love and hate come and go.

Let go of everything else, don’t forget about your core.

If you are there, everything else is there.

Be!

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